Tying the knot

Camyle Cryderman Managing Editor camyle.cryderman@apps.schoolcraft.edu

Camyle Cryderman
Managing Editor
camyle.cryderman@apps.schoolcraft.edu

People should feel comfortable getting married young without pressure from social media

“Ten places to go before getting married,” “27 things to do before you settle down” and “14 reasons you shouldn’t marry young” are all titles of popular articles circulating social media. Websites like Buzzfeed and other blogs constantly publish similar articles telling readers to wait to get wed; but love is love, and if one desires to get married young, they should have no sources trying to persuade them otherwise.

According to a May publication on forbes.com, the average age of marriage so far for the year 2015 is 28-years-old. This number has steadily been rising throughout history and is now at an all-time high. While there are multiple reasons for this increase, I believe one main reason is societal pressure and acceptance. People fear what others think of them in every aspect of life, and an important institution like marriage increases this fear even more. When two people are in love, they should feel comfortable to take things further no matter what their age is.

Many people claim that couples shouldn’t get married in their early 20s because they are being spontaneous and reckless and they are just going to end in divorce. While it is true that couples who get married young have a higher divorce rate, it is also true that couples without a college education and couples with low median incomes have higher divorce rates; however, there is no presence on social media discouraging them to tie the knot. Even if a marriage ends in divorce, it still does not give society the right to persuade young people into not getting married, especially if they feel confident that their love will last.

These popular articles that circulate the Internet feature reasons to stay single that frankly sound ridiculous; yet, they are still widely shared! Many lists include reasons like you may not know where you career will take you in the future, you should travel the world with your “bffs,” you should learn to cook and “you might become way more successful than your partner when you get older” according to an article from madamenoire.com on waiting to get married. So what if one becomes more successful than their partner? Someone has to earn more money in a relationship unless couples are expected to make the exact same income all the time. If people truly love each other, they will have discussed important issues beforehand and do not need input from a random article on the internet.

If two people truly love each other, the reasoning given by these lists sound absurd. Maybe it is important to expand one’s career, travel and learn how to cook, but when people are in love, no matter how young, they will want to do these things alongside their partner.

All of these Buzzfeed-esque articles that discourage young marriage typically end with an uninspiring quote like, “you only have one life, so live it,” but for those reading it who are married young and in love, they are wondering what they could be missing out on. What could be better than doing all of the exciting things on these lists? Doing them with your best friend who happens to be your spouse, living and spending time with the one you love and being able to see all stages of life with your partner, young to old. People should feel comfortable to do what makes their heart happy, no matter what popular media suggests.

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