People rely too much on dating apps to find new connections
By Alex Woodliff, Staff Writer
With Valentine’s Day recently passed and spring quickly approaching, many are looking for someone to spend those increasingly longer and warmer days with. Instead of approaching and starting an actual conversation with a person face to face, many are relying more on dating apps. From Tinder, to Friendsy and even YikYak, many are using technology in impersonal ways totry to make a connection.
Instead of actually walking up to that cute girl or guy in class or at the coffee shop and introducing oneself, people stare at screens, swipe left or right and hope for a response. What happened to the art of actual communication? Are people so afraid of rejection that they would rather talk to a profile while sitting behind the glow of phones? Everyone handles rejection indifferent ways but wouldn’t it feel more rewarding togo up and at least start an actual conversation with a person?
Some people even take digital rejection more to heart than they do being turned down in person. In the growing reliance of apps to get to know a person someone is more likely to miss and misinterpret a lot of the conversation. Something truthful could be misinterpreted as sarcasm.Something sarcastic could be interpreted as possibly genuine.
How many people have felt insecure or responded wrongly to a text from a friend or significant other? Even if one has known the person for a good amount of time every once in a while a text conversation can be left unclear. Now apply that logic to talking to someone one has just started exchanging messages with over an app. At least with a face-to-face conversation there is tone and body language to judge if things are going right or if one should just stop.
While technology allows individuals to constantly send and receive messages and status updates,it fails to serve as a means to converse. Instead it becomes a means for hookups and other forms of instant gratification, which while healthy in short term with responsible use, can lead to long term issues. When society fails to learn how to talk to others face to face, it fails in learning and developing valuable interpersonal skills.
These skills go beyond just dating as well. How many have used or still use those apps gone from a “Hello” to “Netflixs and Chill” or from “Hey” to “You got Kik?” Learning how toactually go and talk to a person can not only help build better people skills but can also lead tonew opportunities.
Yes, itis easy to use a phone and swipe through an endless sea of faces and hopefully witty headlines. Technology might make it easier to connect to other people, but it fails when trying toget to know one another. Unfortunately while the ease of being able to have conversation with anyone in increasing, the actual art of communication is dying.